Lagos girls are very sophisticated, approachable and good to be with but why are Lagos men going back to the village to pick their wives. What is it about village girls that makes them potential life partners? Or is this just a fallacy?
Here are 10 reasons Lagos men go back to the village to select their spouse instead of marrying their Lagos counterparts.
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Men love food and no man likes to return home and not meet a well prepared meal. Village ladies have the upper hand when it comes to performing wonders in the kitchen. Those delicacies that melt a man’s heart and remind him of those nostalgic past are made real by village ladies. Every meal is likely to be a sensation and not the usual rice and bread that is adopted during bachelorhood, Lagos girls on the other hand dwell on refrigerating and microwaving food which doesn’t give the same result. Some even order meals or drag their spouse to a restaurant. Lagos men would rather go for a home-made meal prepared with fresh ingredients and spiced with condiments rather than keep a daily date in the restaurant.
Village ladies grow up with the right orientation and attitude which is what most Lagos men desire. Little attributes like saying Good morning and thank you can go a long way to make a man happy. Village ladies are brought up with a drilling knowledge of respect and attitude. Lagos ladies exude behaviours that raise doubt about their attitudes and orientation and men try to avoid ladies without the right attitude.
Either by nature or nurture, men feel they are superior to women and like it when they get a lot of respect from women. No man wants to marry a woman if he knows she will challenge his superiority. Lagos men know that most Lagos ladies have been so exposed to similar and equal life styles that can lead to tension in the home. Men know that village ladies pose no threat when it comes to class and level and feel more comfortable with that rather than engaging in a class tug of war with a Lagos lady.
Village ladies have very homely qualities that make a man happy. They know it is their duties to do the dishes, laundry, cook, make the home and still take care of the children. Lagos ladies however feel that the modern world in its unwritten law desire men to also help in the house chores and not many Lagos men are adept at doing that. With a village lady however, they is not question about who will do the house chores.
The issue of career is always a big problem to men. As much as Lagos men love successful men, they dislike it when a woman’s job becomes her priority and he his relegated to the second position. The higher a woman goes, the more a man finds her unapproachable. Village ladies are very enterprising instead and know how to combine the home with the family well which is what Lagos men prefer.
Lagos ladies are very attractive but men have discerned the difference between natural beauty and the pancake and lipstick beauty. Lagos ladies are very adept in transforming themselves into angels that it would be difficult to tell the difference between the ‘former and later picture’. Lagos men know they are seeing the real picture when they meet a village lady and not a black-to-white transformation that is typical of Lagos ladies.
Village ladies are cool-headed and have learnt to tame their emotion so as to allow them understand their spouse. Lagos men like it when a woman understands situations without asking too much questions. Lagos ladies though educated and intelligent sometimes lack the basic sense required in understanding the mood and turmoil of a man and this can lead to tension when they cannot act appropriately. Lagos men would rather marry a village lady knowing that there is a telepathic understanding between the two of them.
Village ladies understand moderation and have learnt the skills to economise. Lagos men know that the city has its ups and downs and like it when a woman can make do with what is available. Lagos ladies find it difficult to deal with less than they have been exposed to and some can even raise hell if they don’t get what they are used to. Lagos men like the fact that the humble upbringing of most village ladies equips them for any situation whether rain or shine.
The Lagos lifestyle is a wild one and most ladies in the city have been swept away by the tide. Some women find it difficult to deal with the sexual strength and capacity of their husband because they’ve been exposed to different sexual escapades. Ironically, it is the same men who engage these ladies who know that it will be dangerous to have them in the home. They feel that their already explored sexuality might pose the possibility of marital infidelity. They feel more confident in marrying village ladies who to an extent can guarantee fidelity.
Wife material is an expression used to describe a lady that encapsulates all the qualities that a man wants in a woman. Lagos men try to select a woman with wife material when they eventually want to get married. They feel that Lagos ladies have little or no wife material and therefore cast their nets in the village where they are likely to find ladies who have yards and yards of wife material!